Leaving the gym after handball Monday night, I held the first of two exit doors open for a woman who was a few steps behind me.
“Thank you,” she said.
“You’re welcome,” I said.
Then I held open the second door for her as well (the gym has sort of an entryway with doors on either end of it.
“Thank you,” she said again.
“You’re welcome,” I again replied.
As we strode toward the parking lot, she turned to me and said, “I just read an article about the death of ‘you’re welcome.’”
“Really?” I asked. “My mom taught me to say please and thank you, and if someone said thank you to me, to say you’re welcome.
“I can’t stand it,” I continued, “when I say thank you to someone and they respond with, ‘uh-huh.’”
We continued on to our respective vehicles and I said, “Have a nice evening.”
“You too,” she came back with.
“Thanks,” I answered.
“You’re welcome,” she replied, laughing, as did I.
To me, if someone responds to a thank-you with an “uh-huh” or a “yep,” it’s as if they’re saying, “Yes, I acknowledge you needed to thank me.”
But if they respond with “no sweat” or “no problem,” that’s pretty much as good as a you’re welcome to me.
What do you think?
One last thing on the subject of good manners: I once heard a very old woman advise to always have them because “they don’t cost you anything, and they can take you a long way.”
Good advice, I would say.

2 comments
Patrick_Lair says:
Nov 10, 2009
I don't know. Responding with a 'yep' or an 'oh yeah' to my 'thank you' doesn't bother me. I see the whole 'thank you-you're welcome' exchange as a formality that can be expedited. After all, if someone does something courteous for someone else, they did it because they wanted to or felt it right, not because they wanted to be thanked.
stevelundeberg says:
Nov 10, 2009
Hey Pat, I just we're going to have to agree to disagree … although a "yep" doesn't bother me as much as an "uh-huh." btw, I drove through southern Illinois on my way from St. Louis to Louisville last summer and thought of you and what you said about Illinois' tough gun laws. Also was reminded of Carrie's comment about Chicago and how "the mobsters ruined it for everyone" when it came to firearms freedom. Also btw, Patton and I will be in your neck of the woods in May. Riding to Arches and Monument Valley; if it works out, we'd like to swing down and see you as well.